Monday, January 11, 2010

Choosing to take offense

You know when you have those lessons in church on not being offended? And if you're like me, you always think, "Well duh. I'd never go inactive over a quarrel about cream." (google church history if you're confused) I still think that. But sometimes I think there is some benefit in choosing to be offended. As long as your salvation and church activity are not on the line.

For instance, Hub prefers homemade granola for breakfast. I took on making this soon after we married and even use the same recipe from his mama. Recently, he informed me that he'd make the next batch. He tried to leave it at that but my housewife defenses were on high alert and I demanded further explanation. Bless his heart--this was his carefully worded response, "Well, I know you have a lot going on and sometimes I can tell that you were really rushed when making it." Again, after further interrogation techniques on my part (waterboarding is highly effective) he said that my last batch was not mixed well and there were clumps of brown sugar. And he hates clumps.
What would you do? A more righteous person (and a better wife) would apologize and tell her husband that she would make the time to create the perfect batch of granola and even throw in extra raisins for good measure. But me? I ain't that woman. So I sniffed and said fine, YOU make your own granola. And he did. And I didn't have to. And we were both happy. And I did notice that he took twice as long to make it as I did. So maybe he was right about how 'rushed' I am around here....

And while I'm sharing examples of marital discord...we were playing Catch Phrase, on my Birthday no less, and one of the clues Hub gave to describe the word 'showoff' was to say his wife was one! What the?! I think he really meant 'life of the party'. But since it was my B-day and he'd done lots of super great things for me that day I took the high road and chose to not mention it again. Until now I guess....

11 comments:

cold cocoa said...

Let's face the music: Leon is a better cook than you. Look at all the meals he's made- he actually puts hamburger in the hamburger helper, bless his heart. Can you blame him for wanting to start his day off with a non-offensive breakfast?

Just focus on those things you are better at than him- like eating treats and reading.

stephanie said...

Cold Cocoa, you crack me up! However, I must agree Megan is a good treat eater. It runs in the Heelis side of the family. It is quite a natural talent for all of us.
Taking offense is great! What else would we have to talk about if we didn't take offense from time to time.

T Daley said...

You are genius~ sounds Yummy.... will you share your recipe???
That way Trav can make his own for breakfast too! (He loves stuff like that)

Nicole said...

I would have reacted in a similar way. I think you were nice for making granola in the first place. I'm not that nice. Breakfast around here is cold cereal bought from the store.

The Allreds said...

Thanks for the laugh for the day! You have many gold stars for lots of other STUFF...who cares if you're not the world's greatest granola maker - let Leon pride himself in that one : )

LC said...

Darn, we really did miss a good party.
Bd would really like it if his wife would whip up some potato salad. Instead he just has to wait for those special family BBQ's.

Matt and Cristina said...

That's funny... Matt's usually really good about my cooking except when it comes to his grandma's carrot chowder... no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to shred the carrots just like grandma. I think I'll have him shred the carrots next time.

DKAZ said...

Do you think I could get some of that yummy granola down here? Of course, you don't mind if I ask Leon to make that batch???

The Peacock Family said...

Megan I think you should mess up on more of Leon's meals and free up even more of your time!!LOL Now that he isnt HT the Peacock's he has alot more time on his hands!! I know his knew cub scout calling and primary calling take no time at all.... :) All though I dont comment regularly on your blog I visit often and you make me laugh. And to answer your question YES I will be able to make it to girls camp:( my mother-in-law really screwed that one up didnt she!!! JK I am good either way. Hawaii is Hawaii regardless of the month we go. Have a great week.

Michelle said...

I haven't had a good belly laugh in several days, thanks! Big T has no taste buds and likes whatever I cook. Good think I am pickier than he is or we would be eating guck for dinner every night. If I cook, he does the dishes. That's a good trade for me--maybe you should employ the same compromise: He cooks, you clean.

hOLLIANN said...

Hey - I'm on your side...if you've got it...flaunt it! Showing of is so underrated. And I can so see Leon saying that to you about the granola. My guess is that you didn't get offended, you laughed your head off!